Set backs don’t have to define you

I like to start out my day by reading something motivational or watching a positive video on YouTube. One YouTube channel I subscribe to is Eric Worre’s. Eric describes himself as a network marketing pro and offers positive advice for others that choose this profession.

Today Eric’s video was about not letting drama define you. We all experience set backs in our life and they are bound to have a negative effect (or is it affect, I can never remember) on our life. The trick is to not let the negative event and the drama surrounding it get in the way of living the life want for ourselves, and deserve.

We all know those people that have let some drama define them. I remember a work associate that went through a divorce. He went from being a positive, fun person, to being all about how his wife betrayed him, stabbed him in the back, etc. It seemed that every conversation became about how he was a victim. He let the drama surrounding the breakup of his marriage define him. He became Larry the divorced guy.

As Eric says we can become the victim or the victor, it is how we decide to let the drama influence us. I know it isn’t always easy to forgive, and move on. In fact a lot of times we like to feel sorry for ourselves and want others pity/attention, but it does us no good.

We only have this one life and it is too short to let drama rule it. Take a good look at your life and identify one drama that you are clinging on to. It is in the past, there is nothing you can do about it except learn from the experience and be a better person.

Hope you found this useful. Peace.

Feeling stuck again

My business, a specialty pet store is barely breaking even. And I’m not getting paid for my time. The network marketing business I started almost a year ago is growing slowly, but not growing nearly fast enough.

Both of these are no one’s fault but my own. I’ve made a lot of mistakes and perhaps lost my focus at times. No, that isn’t true. I lose focus all the time.

I don’t really know how to grow the pet store without more capital, and even then I’m not really sure what the best thing would be to do with the capital if I had it. My best idea right now is to keep it going and hope to build my customer base over the next year. Maybe then I’ll have enough cash flow to grow the biz.

So maybe the network marketing could be a better business if I had more time to spend on it. But the store demands too much time and energy. So i’m stuck. Or am I?

Started watching some YouTube videos by some network marketing pros offering their advice, wisdom etc. All part of my ‘self development’ study. And the reality is starting to hit home.

What is the reality? The reality is this, the problem is me. Yes, that’s right, I am not focusing on taking the correct action. I procrastinate, make excuses, complain and blame my circumstance. But the only person I can change is myself. The only circumstances I can control are the circumstances I can control. Not even sure that last sentence makes any sense.

So what is my point? I need to keep working on me. I hope to log my progress here and maybe I’ll get some advice, or maybe my experience will help someone else.

onward and upward.

Choose your own destiny

This is another of those statements that doesn’t make much sense to me; choose your destiny or change your fate/destiny. If such a thing as fate or a destiny exists, it assumes that your future is decided. Having a destiny means that your future is written for you, if you can change that story, than it wasn’t actually destined was it?
So you either have a destiny, that can’t be changed, or you have free will to determine your future. If you can change or decide your future, there was never a destiny.

Personally, I don’t think anyone has a fate. We all choose the direction of our lives. There is no plan, no one has a plan for us except ourselves, and we realize the plan by the choices we make.
So stop saying that we can choose our fate, is makes no sense.